Father’s Day Is Coming | June 16 | Team Hoyt!

And I would like to direct you to a post I placed in 2009 because it shows so well what a real father is. Please follow this link and  . . .

Happy Father’s Day! Father’s Day | Dick Hoyt | Fatherhood

You can check this link too: Can World’s Strongest Dad – CJC Photography

Team HoytTeam Hoyt in their first Boston Marathon (2001)


Good and Evil . . . Are they there? | A Buddhist Thought

University Ave. Tucson AZ

I was at University Avenue doing an improvised book signing,  when Michael (whom I had previously met there) stopped by to chat. He had been perusing my blog, and didn’t agree with the way I used the word “evil.” He prefers to use “detrimental.” I can understand his view: there is no “I” that we can (or should) be judgmental about and classify as evil; and there is cause and effect, and the responsibility of humanity as a whole. Indeed!

But in the world of form the ego holds the baton, and it can be the source of extremely “detrimental” actions, which can be considered “evil.” (Evil meaning: “profoundly immoral and malevolent.”) Self-importance can turn a group of people into homicidal maniacs, who can kill 3,000 people to blame somebody else AE 9/11 Truth and make a fortune by killing even more people. I would consider that an “evil deed.” Don’t you think?

If you let me define morality as the way we treat other human beings: our family, friends, neighbors and everybody else, the act described above is not only immoral; it is “evil,” because the persons responsible are not only immoral but also sociopaths without a conscience.

In this world, although a dream, we do need morality because within this construction, the great suffering caused by the ego is obvious. Due to the ego, evil does exist  in this enormous stage, and that ego-mind must be understood and disciplined. Therefore, we have responsibilities to meet, a challenge to face.

“What we are is the result of what we have thought,
is built by our thoughts, is made up of our thoughts.
If one speaks or acts with an impure thought,
suffering follows one, like the wheel of the cart follows the foot of the ox.”–Buddha 

An undisciplined mind will unavoidably lead us astray, toward “detrimental,” “bad,” or even “evil” acts; and that is where suffering comes from. And if there is a selfish entity who is causing enormous  suffering , (with predetermination) for personal gain, that entity and its actions are “evil.” Wouldn’t you say?

Santa Monica CA | Palisade Park | A “Dream”

It is a few minutes past 6 PM and I just parked by Palisade Beach Park on Ocean Blvd. I am across the street from the Blue Plate — Oysterette (Thai Dishes), and a couple of blocks from The Georgian Hotel. It is Sunday evening. The sun is still shinning bright, warming the cool evening breezes. Balmy weather! After a recent dance workout I am thoroughly relaxed. I sit on my vehicle and just enjoy the scene. At the Blue Plate the valets are busy parking cars; the place is packed. The park is teeming with people. I am awake! My radio is playing but it doesn’t disrupt my meditation. I just listen while I watch everything . . . the joggers, the strollers, the cyclists, the couples (gay and straight) the homeless and mentally ill, the man balancing a water bottle on his head as he walks by with his backpack . . . The radio stops playing. I am here, with everything. And I see the collective dream; we are all dreaming together. We are being dreamed. It is all there, but it’s not.

Dusk sets in, and then the night lights appear. The magical evening is gone to never come back, and I remember a couple of lines from a poem by Emily Dickinson.

   “That it will never come again

is what makes life so sweet . . .”

Palisade Park: This Eucalyptus grows close to the ground.

My next stop is Tucson, Arizona. I am looking forward to see the blooming Palo Verdes.

Owl | Travel

I “saw” an owl yesterday. I guess I am traveling soon. It was a grand owl with bluish-green feathers, bright—a spirit- owl.  There was a bright sky too, a sunny day.

I do need to do a book tour . . . soon!

The Great Horned Owl by Ashley Hockenberry

“Awakening” with a Stroke | Jill Bolte Taylor

Jane Friedman sent me this link in her newsletter and I have to share it with you. Click here You can also see it on You Tube.

You can get Jane’s newsletter here: free newsletter

This is her blog: There Are No Rules

Presence! What does it mean?

I recently came across an article in a Buddhist magazine in which the author stated that we can’t help but being present because we are always here in bodily form; we can’t be anywhere else. Then he proceeded on a tangent of thought that I can’t remember at the moment; it was irrelevant anyway.

He was misunderstanding what “presence” is. If our body is here but our mind is in some distant past, unforeseeable future or imaginary situation, we are not present. Our mind is running away with us. Our presence of mind is gone. We are not awake.

Right thought is the thought placed in what we are doing or experiencing in the present moment. The mind is stilled then; that is, present.

Inception | Leonardo DiCaprio | Marion Cotillard

I went to see Inception, which was recommended to me by alywaibel.  Excellent movie! I liked how they changed ‘dreams’ — as Toltecs do in the ‘dreaming attention’, although you don’t need all that equipment to do that. What I liked best, however, was the end of the movie when Cobb after reuniting with his family spins his totem to make sure he is not ‘dreaming’ anymore. But we can’t see the outcome, which implies that perhaps life is but a ‘dream’. . .

Regard this fleeting world,

as a star at dawn, a bubble in a stream,

a flash of lightning in a summer cloud,

a flickering lamp, a phantom and a dream.

–Buddha’s Diamond Sutra

Random thought is a trap. Pay attention! It is a dream.

The dreamed dreams the dreamer.

More about real . . . dreaming (scroll down to second section)

The Eye of the Dragon | Stalking Castaneda | A Manuscript

I recently finished my manuscript. The Eye of the Dragon, Stalking Castaneda is now going to the ‘fridge’, meaning it will not be worked on for a few months.  I will get back to it later with a fresh mind to do the last draft. The cover art is below:

The Eye of The Dragon

The Eye of The Dragon

Haiku Poem | Maybe?

These three lines came to mind. And I thought it was Haiku. Maybe not. I am looking into it.  A website I found is below. Do you know Haiku?

Gleaming white!
Jet black legs, beak. Yellow feet.
Summer, a Heron!

Haiku for people: http://www.toyomasu.com/haiku/

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Caring for Others | Steven E. Hodes M.D.

B9965E0EA12D4D9CB79DAA9E43D2FCFDI received some Caregiver Survival Tips by Dr. Steven H. Hodes that I consider excellent. Here they are:

Caring for Others Helps You Grow Spiritually

When you’re caring for a loved one too ill to care for himself or herself, it is also important to save some time and energy for yourself. Here’s how.

By Steven E. Hodes, M.D.

When you go through a caregiving experience, it can seem odd and even unreal. Dealing with physicians and “hospital speak” may make you feel as if you’re in some bizarre alternate world. It may help you to realize that this is a universal human phenomenon. You are not alone in the experience or in facing these challenges. Here are some insights to help you survive and, yes, spiritually grow.

Assume the Role of Caregiver

You are now the advocate. Make sure your loved one is getting the best medical care possible. Your job is not to “play doctor,” but to find the most competent and caring physicians you can. Work with medical professionals you can trust to guide you and your loved one through these difficult times. As you find strength you never knew you had, make sure you save some for your own life. One of the hazards of caretaking is sacrificing yourself in the process.

Deal with One Thing at a Time

During times of actual crisis, don’t project or worry about the future.  Deal with the immediate only. Pick out the closest goal or target. Don’t begin to worry about what will or might occur down the road. Don’t dwell on how traumatic these events are for everyone in the family. This will only increase your anxiety and distress. Pick the next step and place one foot in front of the other; concentrate fully on that. Your worry about the future is a waste of your energy during times of crisis. Furthermore, your predictions may be entirely erroneous.

Acknowledge Your Emotional Distress

Fear is the most basic of emotions. When a parent or loved one is ill or incapacitated, it can make you feel like a child again. The shocking awareness, in childhood, that we are separate beings whose parents cannot protect us is a feeling that never truly dissipates. The fear of being alone rushes back precipitously when we are reminded of our loved one’s mortality. It is important to know that you will have moments of deep sadness and hopelessness when you see your loved one suffering, and that is a natural reaction.

Face Your Deepest Fears and Pain

Most psychologists and spiritual leaders recognize the need to experience, rather than suppress, these feelings. The universality of death and transient nature of life are realities for us all. Knowing this from a spiritual perspective can help you dialogue and deal with the intense feelings of the heart. This is not easy—but it is necessary and ultimately healing.

See Crisis as an Opportunity for Healing

Many individuals have had fractured and painful relationships with their parents or loved ones. Seeing your loved ones as vulnerable and wounded may offer new opportunities for healing. Rather than repeating this cycle of generational pain/anger, this can be a transformative time for all concerned. Look for ways to put the past behind you and be present and loving.

Honor Your Loved One’s Spiritual Journey

Honor what is going on with your loved one on a spiritual level. In addition to the physical emergency, there is a higher truth. The physical brain/body is constantly changing and ultimately deteriorating. Spiritual forces will ultimately determine the outcome of this life, as well as its ending. This is not something you can control, although you can provide comfort, support, and care.

Share Your Worries with Others

Don’t try to deny your own pain and frustration.  And don’t try to hold it in. It is important to find outlets to ventilate your own distress and tell the truth about what you are going through. Don’t be afraid of frightening off others. Those who care will be there for you.

Experience the Power of Love

Soak in the love. Let the love and prayers of others uplift you. On your journey, remember that love heals. Your presence in your loved one’s life is a healing presence. Let others replenish you with their love and compassion along the way.

Let Caretaking Transform You

When a loved one is in a crisis, we change our priorities and notions of what is important in life. The pursuit of material wealth, professional recognition, and ego gratification are easily shed. Unfortunately, after a while, time and again we forget these healing lessons and return to our prior state of consciousness. Make an effort to allow the life lessons of caretaking to help you on the road to self-improvement.

Know When to Let Go

When it comes to decisions regarding end of life or continued treatment, be sure to make the judgment based on the best interest of your loved one. Too often there are unnecessary tests, procedures, and surgeries performed on individuals who are in the process of actively dying and who have no realistic hope for recovery. Rather than allow relatives to die peacefully, some people insist that “everything be done.” This causes unnecessary pain and suffering. Often the motivation is guilt or the inability to let go. In such situations this can be a selfish, rather than a loving act. Know in your heart when it is time to let go.

Take Care of You

Here is the most important advice: Take care of your own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Although we may be focused completely on our loved one’s suffering, we need to be strong in order to be there. Withdraw yourself mentally from the crisis for short periods, and do not feel guilty. Maintain your nutrition, exercise, and rest. Whether meditation, exercise, or prayer are your personal modes of finding strength, don’t abandon them now. Remember the universal statements regarding the use of oxygen masks on airplanes: “When flying with children, always place YOUR mask on first.” You have to be strong and conscious in order to help others.

Steven E. Hodes, M.D. is a board-certified physician and author of Meta-Physician On Call for Better Health. Visit him at his blog, www.meta-md.com.

I received the tips through www.beliefnet.com

“When one is out of touch with oneself, one cannot touch others.”--Anne Morrow Lindbergh

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